A lot of times, each one of us are uncharacteristically forced to go through the toughest of times, not once or twice but several and its always uninvited.
Do we roll out a red carpet and hold our arms open for trouble?
Some people would force that opinion though, the phrase ‘Asked for it’ comes to my mind and well sometimes it’s all in one’s mind too.
This is the way of life though, isn’t it?
Sure, it makes us that extra strong to fight that next inevitable battle, but is there ever a line that crosses that tolerance level that has been set?
All of us at one point do meet those Toxic people, who make it
Oh’ so difficult to breathe!
They berate you, lie to you, put you down in varied versions of them caring for you on their terms, make you feel guilty if you stand up for yourselves, impose their beliefs and point of views as the Absolute Truth, belittle you in front of others, discourage from reaching out to the other people close to you, push those away who try to help you and in most cases divide the social gatherings you are mutually part of and alienate people close to you?
Or did they actually do you a favor by weeding out these people who were supposed to be close to you and walk away at the first sign of disagreement?
This is where the Enablers to these Toxic people sprout out and make their presence known.
These enablers, encourage either by goading these toxic people to cause more harm in different ways. The worst kind, at times, are the mute spectators.
We see, observe, choose to ignore and let it go.
At what point do we call their behaviour out or do we ever?
The last: One can only play the victim card for so long and incidentally we are a villian in someone else’s story. The moment you realise that you are in the receiving end of toxicity-those Red flags you chose to ignore at first, the excuses that so easily slip off your tongue, the humiliation faced, all of it keep mounting the insecurities and withers away the self confidence with time.
However, you’ll know when it’s time to move on and walk away. Call them out, fight back, ignore them, it’s your choice.
Seek help, there are always friends and if not, there’s always help outside.
If you are an enabler, maybe just maybe, it’s time for you to try and stop when you see this happening the next time to someone else.
Being afraid of the repercussions that do arise by taking this stand has its consequences but it’s usually always a lot more difficult for someone else out there who could do with that kind of support.
Undeniably, the only person you have at the end of the day, is YOU.
Art By: Sanjana CK
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